@masterplan ALL of this is of no consequence if you are prepared to ditch the wretched partner at the first sign of her using her ‘privilege’ against you.
Marriage can be wonderful. I am still ‘newlywed’ but I have co-habited for years with my husband. It does not equal marriage in law in this country, which is why we chose to actually get married. You had a bad relationship and I’m sorry for anyone having experienced that. I have a great relationship with my husband and marriage is right for us.
Marriage is not the problem, people are.